By Dr. Jeannette Lofas with Dr. Karen Hensel
In stepfamilies there is an ongoing phenomenon occurring with the divorced father. It is the father’s seeming inability to discipline his children.
In fact it is interpreted that many divorced fathers cease to father. This lack of discipline and/or disagreements regarding behaviors grows into a major cause of stepfamily divorce.
Divorced Dads transform into Disneyland Dads, unable to see the issues and problems generated by their children, and his own responses to them.
The behaviors are classic for millions of divorced dads when their kids visit his house. The father has no negative intent. He is simply unaware of his reactions, or lack thereof. They are driven by guilt and an unconscious “not seeing.”
What is this “not seeing?” It is literally and figuratively “turning a blind eye” to his children’s negative behaviors.
WHY the reasons would fill a book. How does his wife, the stepmother cope? With pain and passion. “Where has my champion GONE?” When it becomes too much…don’t leave get help. This is what we do, And what follows are some surface reasons how come.