Counseling – In person and phone
We accept the following insurance companies:
- Blue Cross/Blue Shield
- United HealthCare
Our model is directive and short term. We have developed a unique system for understanding the specific dynamics and successfully solving problems. Clients report changes after the first session! Work is completed anywhere between 6-8 sessions. Clients receive homework, and are given our unique tools designed for their situations. Sessions are also offered by telephone in the United States and abroad. Counseling / Coaching can be worked around your schedule.
We differ from therapists who focus on family of origin work and focus on feelings. We use hypnosis, trance work and focus on creating successful outcomes with our clients.
Intensive Counseling - Intensive clients come to us in New York City. We then work in a three day, focused setting.
Counseling /Coaching Services
We work with first marriages who may be confused or in trouble about their direction and relationship. We teach them to communicate using various tools that we have developed over thirty years of work with couples. Many couples come to us contemplating divorce. We have developed a special system to teach them to talk to each other and assess their relationship.
Remarriage is the most difficult form of marriage. We have written five books on the topic. We teach couples how to recognize and deal with the perplexing dynamics of the step relationship. Through our system, they learn what is necessary to solve their stepfamily issues.
The couple today must cope with more severe problems than those of their parents such as dual careers, money, roles and conflict. We teach couples our specific communication systems allowing them to solve the difficulties which once stood before them.
More complex than ever was, no longer do we meet each other through family and friends where we could check people out. Now we go blindly into bars and dating sites like match.com and eHarmony.com. We teach individuals the tools of how to assess a potential partner. Then we teach the couple how to communicate using our methods developed over thirty years.
Our process is different to some of the commonly practiced modes of working first, and foremost we are concerned with the “best interests of the child.” These practices most often result in better couple communication. The best transactions between parents are one, which is mediated.
The best divorce is a mediated divorce. Why? Cheaper, the couple does not hate each other, Most divorces result in and promote life-long animosity between the two ex partners who now have to jointly parent their children. Over 67% of children are emotionally or spiritually injured by the post divorce actions of their parents. The divorce is not a single event, but most often goes on for years. Statistics tell us that ten years post divorce 70% of women and 50 % of men are still intensely angry at each other.
In mediating a divorce we do not start with money or house issues. We start with how couples will conduct themselves, get agreements on such as: civility,
badmouthing, a calendar is designed for events and visits. We encourage rules for each house however there is not need for them to be the same.
How Do I Get Started?
Call Dr. Lofas at 212-877-3244 or e-mail us today at firstname.lastname@example.org.
She prefers to talk with new clients personally.
Steve and I were married this past Saturday, and I know we never would have made it this far without you. Thank you so much for saving my family. With love and respect.
Colleen (Coughlin) Degler New York, NY, 2007
None of the other counselors have been able to help me STEP BY STEP with what to do with my boys. Our relationship is 150% better since our work with Stepfamily Foundation has begun.
Jeff Ruggles, New York, NY, 2007
I have a much better understanding of step….the fact that there is hope….I’ve stopped feeling alone. It’s comforting to know that my feelings are normal.
Elizabeth Conrad, New York, NY 2006
After only a few short sessions, we have learned more and accomplished more than we have with any other professional we have seen.
Joseph Rosen, Sarasota, FL 2008
It didn’t feel like we needed psychiatric help. The Foundation’s system of educational counseling fits our needs….They made our marriage work.
Ellen and Donald Kerry, Nevada City, CA 2007
I cannot believe how bad it was….and how good it is now. We could communicate over everything BUT the children. We were guided, and we are still learning. Those first years were a nightmare. Where were you?
Daphnie and Scott Briarton, Southampton, NY 2006
Professional Seminar Comments
I would like to remain on the Stepfamily Foundation website. I took your Professional Seminar in the early 1990’s. It continues to be very enriching for me. I’m utilizing the tools and materials I learned then, to this day, with many of the families I see.Ephraim Frankel, PH.D, 2007
This seminar was great! I find the Stepfamily Foundation model more effective for dealing with stepfamilies than any other work I’ve studied.
Linda Watkins of Fort Hood Texas, 2007
The Stepfamily Foundation genogram is the most valuable tool I have ever learned. I use it for all modalities, not just stepfamily counseling. I look forward to the Master Level seminar!
Jackie Yudelowitz Of New York, LCSW-R, ACSW 2007
Lofas is brilliant!
Roger Frampton Of Canada, 2007
I was very impressed with the model of utilizing the "my reality is" method. I was immediately able to employ what I had learned in my own situation. I was able to utilize the tools gained from the Seminar and saw a difference in myself as well as the responses. The tools and methods.. are extremely effective because it does not dwell in the past but moves the parties involved to meaningful solutions from a management approach.
Bobby Love, Kansas, 2008
Not a moment goes by I don't thank God we met you and took your class and worked with you...
Aileen DeAugustine, California, 2009