1. We love each other, but disagreement over the kids is destroying our relationship.
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2. We disagree about discipline of the children.
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3. The allocation of money creates conflict.
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4. Ex’s cause conflict.
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5. We disagree about “who comes first.”
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6. I feel the kids are disrespectful towards their father,
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7. Their mother,
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8. Their stepfather,
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9. Their stepmother,.
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10. Others.
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11. My partner doesn’t notice the children’s disrespect.
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12. This stepfamily lacks management.
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13. This stepfamily lacks civility.
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14. There are few boundaries, rules, roles and responsibilities.
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15. Guilt runs the way he/she parents.
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16. We don’t know how to make our stepfamily work.
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17. I never thought living in a stepfamily would be this difficult.
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18. I don’t know what my role is in the stepfamily.
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19. I feel like an outsider.
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20. I worry that our relationship will fail.
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