Ten Steps For Stepfamilies



ABOUT THE 10 STEPS FOR THE STEPFAMILY,
THE BLENDED FAMILY
What follows shortly are scores of 10 steps for the stepfamily.
Should YOU have another specific topic or individual
you would like us to do  a 10 steps for
 please contact us
at stepfamily@aol.com

The greatest enemy for members of the stepfamily is not knowing about its particular, specific and perplexing modus operendi of behaviors…its dynamics.

These behaviors, and the reactions to them, cause the stunning two out of three break- up statistics plaguing stepfamily couples. Our impressive success rate is due to our knowledge and to the teaching of these very specific dynamics and the solutions to them. Helping professionals are taught nothing about the stepfamily in graduate school. Instead the focus of their education is the original family. Placing that focus and expectation on the stepfamily sadly leads to failure of the stepfamily’s fragile system.

We must know the rules of function to make it work! So, here are a few guidelines for your success.



The Stepfamily Foundation Inc. is a not for profit, formed in 1975 to inform and counsel those who live in re-coupled families. Counseling is done on the telephone worldwide and in person in New York City and the East End of Long Island . It also conducts Certification Seminars for professionals, coaches, clergy and attorneys.

Dr. Jeannette Lofas is the President and Founder of the Stepfamily Foundation, Inc., and the author of Stepparenting, Family Rules, Living In Step, and He’s OK, She’s OK. She is a lecturer and noted journalist, and has been counseling stepfamilies for over thirty years. 

Dr. Lofas is licensed social worker and a certified mediator. She is a member of such organizations as The Association for Family Conflict and Conciliation, The Center for Family and Divorce Mediation and The New York State Council on Divorce Mediation.