Counseling For The Stepfamily / Blended Family
Experience is the mother of certainty. I have been teaching, lecturing and counseling for four decades.
After our first visit I can tell you what works and what needs work in your step couple relationship
Our research shows that 84% of my clients are still together.
How We Work:
- Standard psychotherapy is based on feelings.
- Our work is based on actionable information, and management.
- Individuation is the cornerstone of traditional psychotherapy...the taking care of the SELF.
- Our focus is the partnership and the family.
- In standard psychotherapy the therapist does not give answers or solutions.
- The answers must come from within the client
- In our work, the therapist is an expert consultant.
Background:
- Counseling is directive, 5 - 8 sessions.
- Results after first session.
- Counseled over 8,000 clients and trained over 2,100 professionals worldwide.
What are the benefits of telephone counseling with Dr. Lofas?
- Convenience - No babysitter, no traveling required.
- Phone counseling works faster.
- Ability to conference to couples in different states and countries.
Questions?
Dr. Lofas prefers to talk with new clients personally and keeps 12-1PM EST available by phone.
Call today for your free 30 minute consultation
We offer the following Counseling Services
- Divorce
- Co-parenting
- Remarriage
- Family Counseling
- Couple Counseling
- Dating
- Mediation
Divorce
The best divorce is a mediated divorce. Why? Cheaper, the couple does not hate each other, Most divorces result in and promote life-long animosity between the two ex partners who now have to jointly parent their children. Over 67% of children are emotionally or spiritually injured by the post divorce actions of their parents. The divorce is not a single event, but most often goes on for years. Statistics tell us that ten years post divorce 70% of women and 50 % of men are still intensely angry at each other.
In mediating a divorce we do not start with money or house issues. We start with how couples will conduct themselves, get agreements on such as: civility, badmouthing, a calendar is designed for events and visits. We encourage rules for each house however there is not need for them to be the same.
The best divorce is a mediated divorce. Why? Cheaper, the couple does not hate each other, Most divorces result in and promote life-long animosity between the two ex partners who now have to jointly parent their children. Over 67% of children are emotionally or spiritually injured by the post divorce actions of their parents. The divorce is not a single event, but most often goes on for years. Statistics tell us that ten years post divorce 70% of women and 50 % of men are still intensely angry at each other.
In mediating a divorce we do not start with money or house issues. We start with how couples will conduct themselves, get agreements on such as: civility, badmouthing, a calendar is designed for events and visits. We encourage rules for each house however there is not need for them to be the same.
Co-Parenting
We counsel to create civility and a working relationship...for the sake of the children. "The anger of ex-spouses hurts that which they love the most, the children..."
We counsel to create civility and a working relationship...for the sake of the children. "The anger of ex-spouses hurts that which they love the most, the children..."
Remarriage
Remarriage is the most difficult form of marriage. We have written five books on the topic. We teach couples how to recognize and deal with the perplexing dynamics of the step relationship. Through our system, they learn what is necessary to solve their stepfamily issues.
Remarriage is the most difficult form of marriage. We have written five books on the topic. We teach couples how to recognize and deal with the perplexing dynamics of the step relationship. Through our system, they learn what is necessary to solve their stepfamily issues.
Family Counseling
We work with first marriages who may be confused or in trouble about their direction and relationship. We teach them to communicate using various tools that we have developed over thirty years of work with couples. Many couples come to us contemplating divorce. We have developed a special system to teach them to talk to each other and assess their relationship.
We work with first marriages who may be confused or in trouble about their direction and relationship. We teach them to communicate using various tools that we have developed over thirty years of work with couples. Many couples come to us contemplating divorce. We have developed a special system to teach them to talk to each other and assess their relationship.
Couple Counseling
The couple today must cope with more severe problems than those of their parents such as dual careers, money, roles and conflict. We teach couples our specific communication systems allowing them to solve the difficulties which once stood before them.
The couple today must cope with more severe problems than those of their parents such as dual careers, money, roles and conflict. We teach couples our specific communication systems allowing them to solve the difficulties which once stood before them.
Dating
More complex than ever was, no longer do we meet each other through family and friends where we could check people out. Now we go blindly into bars and dating sites like match.com and eHarmony.com. We teach individuals the tools of how to assess a potential partner. Then we teach the couple how to communicate using our methods developed over thirty years.
More complex than ever was, no longer do we meet each other through family and friends where we could check people out. Now we go blindly into bars and dating sites like match.com and eHarmony.com. We teach individuals the tools of how to assess a potential partner. Then we teach the couple how to communicate using our methods developed over thirty years.
Mediation
Our process is different to some of the commonly practiced modes of working first, and foremost we are concerned with the “best interests of the child.” These practices most often result in better couple communication. The best transactions between parents are one, which is mediated.
Our process is different to some of the commonly practiced modes of working first, and foremost we are concerned with the “best interests of the child.” These practices most often result in better couple communication. The best transactions between parents are one, which is mediated.
What others have said about counseling with Dr. Lofas
We couldn't be happier with Dr. Lofas! she quickly injected such hope and reassurance into our blended family through her real world guidance; wise diagnosis of the root cause; and practical, achievable, and immediate tweaks to our parenting styles and home atmosphere. We began this process with difficulties in the stepparent-stepchild relationship. Five sessions later, we are at a completely different place: all relationships in our family are stable and on track to becoming strong. Simply put, this worked. We are so grateful for Dr. Lofas' candor, confidence, wisdom, and most importantly, experience.
- Tim & Erica
"I'm so glad you were born. The world needs you so much.
You helped me realize I was not alone and that what is going on
is typical, happens a lot a dynamic. You are a true Christian graced
with a gift from God. Thank you.
-Bonnie
Steve and I were married this past Saturday, and I know we never would have made it this far without you. Thank you so much for saving my family. With love and respect.
Colleen (Coughlin) Degler New York, NY
None of the other counselors have been able to help me STEP BY STEP with what to do with my boys. Our relationship is 150% better since our work with Stepfamily Foundation has begun.
Jeff Ruggles, New York, NY
I have a much better understanding of step….the fact that there is hope….I’ve stopped feeling alone. It’s comforting to know that my feelings are normal.
Elizabeth Conrad, New York, NY
After only a few short sessions, we have learned more and accomplished more than we have with any other professional we have seen.
Joseph Rosen, Sarasota, FL
It didn’t feel like we needed psychiatric help. The Foundation’s system of educational counseling fits our needs….They made our marriage work.
Ellen and Donald Kerry, Nevada City, CA
I cannot believe how bad it was….and how good it is now. We could communicate over everything BUT the children. We were guided, and we are still learning. Those first years were a nightmare. Where were you?
Daphnie and Scott Briarton, Southampton, NY
We couldn't be happier with Dr. Lofas! she quickly injected such hope and reassurance into our blended family through her real world guidance; wise diagnosis of the root cause; and practical, achievable, and immediate tweaks to our parenting styles and home atmosphere. We began this process with difficulties in the stepparent-stepchild relationship. Five sessions later, we are at a completely different place: all relationships in our family are stable and on track to becoming strong. Simply put, this worked. We are so grateful for Dr. Lofas' candor, confidence, wisdom, and most importantly, experience.
- Tim & Erica
"I'm so glad you were born. The world needs you so much.
You helped me realize I was not alone and that what is going on
is typical, happens a lot a dynamic. You are a true Christian graced
with a gift from God. Thank you.
-Bonnie
Steve and I were married this past Saturday, and I know we never would have made it this far without you. Thank you so much for saving my family. With love and respect.
Colleen (Coughlin) Degler New York, NY
None of the other counselors have been able to help me STEP BY STEP with what to do with my boys. Our relationship is 150% better since our work with Stepfamily Foundation has begun.
Jeff Ruggles, New York, NY
I have a much better understanding of step….the fact that there is hope….I’ve stopped feeling alone. It’s comforting to know that my feelings are normal.
Elizabeth Conrad, New York, NY
After only a few short sessions, we have learned more and accomplished more than we have with any other professional we have seen.
Joseph Rosen, Sarasota, FL
It didn’t feel like we needed psychiatric help. The Foundation’s system of educational counseling fits our needs….They made our marriage work.
Ellen and Donald Kerry, Nevada City, CA
I cannot believe how bad it was….and how good it is now. We could communicate over everything BUT the children. We were guided, and we are still learning. Those first years were a nightmare. Where were you?
Daphnie and Scott Briarton, Southampton, NY