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We see evidence of narcissism in our practice. Often the children we work with are praised too much and are seen too little by today's parents.
This is a growing problem with our times today and the LA Times has a terrific article on how we can identify a narcissist:
Chores create the vital teamwork essential to the functioning of the stepfamily. They create self esteem, responsibility, organizational skills and more. We have been assigning chores for three decades.
Below is an article from the Wall Street Journal that explains the benefits of children doing chores:
She speaks 25,000 words per day.She feels that asking for directions creates a relationship with the person she’s talking to. Women communicate to affiliate.
A woman needs to feel that he cares about her to be loved.
She speaks her thoughts in order to know what he feels.
She feels to listen is to learn, and makes as many comments as possible.
She interrupts to signal understanding. He speaks 12,500 words per day. Often, when he gets home, he’s out of words.
He believes only the lower ranking male asks for directions when lost.
Men communicate to establish hierarchy
A man needs to feel good about himself to love.
He thinks silently and alone.
He feels listening is subordinate and responds less.
He interrupts to establish dominance.
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Jeannette Lofas, Ph.D, LCSW
President and Founder of Stepfamily Foundation, Inc., Dr. Lofas has been managing stepfamilies for thirty years. In 1995 Lofas received a presidential award for her work. Research reports that she has an 84% success rate. A stepchild and stepmother herself, she is considered to be the leading authority on stepfamilies. Dr. Lofas has written five books: Living In Step, McGraw-Hill, Stepparenting, Citadel, How to Be a Stepparent, Nightingale Connant; He's OK, She's OK: Honoring the Differences Between Men & Women, and Tzedakah, Family Rules, Kensington Books.