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Teens Waking Up In Dread

4/3/2018

 
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In my practice, I am seeing an ever-increasing number of teenagers who are experiencing unpanelled levels of anxiety.

Anxiety to the extent that they skip school won't leave their bedrooms and refuse to participate in any family activities. They are frozen in their fear of any and all that is uncertain.

The fear of being put in an unfamiliar situation, which they either can't handle or might trigger the feelings of anxiety. The slightest adverse event in daily life often leads to their inability to cope.  When anything negative happens, they can't seem to roll with the punches or know how to find the lesson and in the event, in failure.

Experts believe the use of social media and smartphones contributed heavily to the increase in young people's mental health issues.  Social media - the thing we can't live without is making us anxious.

Aside from looking into the predominance of helicopter parents, society placed the notion that we should only feel good about themselves without acknowledging the negativity.  Parents support the notion that children should experience only winnings, not losses. I'm reminded of my grandchild's ballet recital. At the ballet recital, all of the parents were asked to give their child a dozen roses so that would be no winners nor no losers.

In some cases, some students typically avoid a large school cafeteria and asked to eat lunch in a small classroom.

There's a connection between how some schools deal with anxious students who are worried as a generation of young people increasingly insistent on safe spaces – and who believe their feelings should be protected at all costs

For example, The School of Ethical Culture in New York City discontinued all athletic programs because it said they were "too competitive." The pervasive belief is that losing causes the loss of self-esteem.

In a nutshell, it is all about the avoidance of uncertainty and discomfort. More and more students struggle to recover from minor setbacks and are not equipped to problem solve or advocate for themselves effectively a school counselor related.

So what can you do to help your child succeed without placing so much pressure on their life?

We at the Foundation believe that  in order to develop skills to manage kids, they must be willing to fail. As experts tell us, we learn more from failure than we do from success. In pop culture standards, Rocky Balboa once said, “Our greatest glory is not in falling, but rising every time we fall.”


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    President and Founder of Stepfamily Foundation, Inc., Dr. Lofas has been managing stepfamilies for thirty years. In 1995 Lofas received a presidential award for her work. Research reports that she has an 84% success rate. A stepchild and stepmother herself, she is considered to be the leading authority on stepfamilies. Dr. Lofas has written five books: Living In Step, McGraw-Hill, Stepparenting, Citadel, How to Be a Stepparent, Nightingale Connant; He's OK, She's OK: Honoring the Differences Between Men & Women, and Tzedakah, Family Rules, Kensington Books.

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