A woman needs to feel that he cares about her to be loved.
She speaks her thoughts in order to know what he feels.
She feels to listen is to learn, and makes as many comments as possible.
She interrupts to signal understanding. He speaks 12,500 words per day. Often, when he gets home, he’s out of words.
He believes only the lower ranking male asks for directions when lost.
Men communicate to establish hierarchy
A man needs to feel good about himself to love.
He thinks silently and alone.
He feels listening is subordinate and responds less.
He interrupts to establish dominance.
He’s Okay, She’s Okay: Honoring the Differences Between Men and Women by Jeannette Lofas, CSW and Joan MacMillan, MSC, MFCC
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